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This book is for anyone who has experienced trauma, domestic violence, and believes that their life circumstances define who they are. So many times we feel that everything that happens to us is our fault. That kind of thinking keeps our minds in bondage. I am here to help you learn that everything that happens to you is not your fault. Sometimes we are placed in situations to make us stronger.

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This book describes how I went from a young child who worked in the cotton fields 12 hours a day to becoming who God intended for me to be and that is not being a slave to anyone. So many times we feel that everything that happens to us is our fault. That kind of thinking keeps our minds in bondage. I am here to help you learn that everything that happens to you is not your fault. Sometimes we are placed in situations to make us stronger. Yes, that is hard to believe. You must believe in yourself and know that you deserve more no matter what others tell you. Their words do not define you. Your actions will show who you are. If you have a dream, then see that dream through to the finish line. You will have challenges, and use their challenges as stepping stones to your destination. God created everyone in His image. If you believe in God then believe in yourself!

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Chapter 1

The Front Door Is Off Limits

As a child growing up in the South, I was always told that I was not allowed to go into any public place through the front door. If I went to the store for food or supplies I had to go through the back door. I did not understand why and I decided to go to the front door. I was met with resistance, and I was called several derogatory names, and my mother was called. When I got home, my mother beat me. I asked her why and her response was “I have to whip you so no one else will” My mother beat me to save my life. I did not understand it at the time.

Chapter 6

Release yourself From Bondage

As I got older, I began to question everything. I would go to church and bible school and hear about God and how he created everyone equal. I became more rebellious and no one could tell me that I am not a child of God. I started excelling in school and began to challenge everyone who tried to tell me that I was not worthy. I am free to be who I am and no one can stop me.

Chapter 12

The Front Door Belongs to Me

After finishing high school, I left the small town and moved to San Diego. My dream was to become the first person in my family to work in the medical field. I ask myself, how am I going to do this? The voice in my head told me “The Lord will make away”. After leaving Texas, the doors began opening for me. I still have the mindset, should I go through the front door? I laughed at myself and said you will never go through the back door again unless I choose. The front door now belongs to me. I walked through the front door and I felt like I was in heaven.


"Just like moons and like suns,
with the certainty of tides,
Just like hope springing high,

-Maya Angelou

About Author

About The Author

My name is Bobbie Battle Carter. I am a Registered Nurse with more than 30 years of nursing experience. I was born in a small town in Texas, with a population of 717. I am the daughter of a single mother who taught me to always follow my dream. Although she had very little education, she encouraged me to always do my best and never give up. As a child, I was forced to work in cotton fields for 12-hour days for $6.25 a day. At that time, I didn’t know that it was considered slave labor. I experienced physical and mental abuse. As a child, I thought as a child. I believed that everything that happened to me was my fault. This type of thinking has kept me in bondage. I learned that I must stop the madness and not allow my childhood to affect my adulthood. I am a single mother of three adult children who have blessed me with 9 grandchildren. God has blessed me to be able to provide for them and instill in them to always look up and never look down. I began to focus on my education, which changed my circumstances. I believe that I am a great role model for my children. I received my master’s degree in nursing and education(MSN/ED). I am currently working on my Doctorate in Nursing Education.

Pink Clouds
“Do the best you can
until you know better.
Then when you are better,

― Maya Angelou

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